Emotional dependence from your partner could be very strong and it is better try to avoid from it. Let’s speak about some ways, which could help you to solve thus problem.
Work with emotional dependence should be constantly directed on separation of yourself from other person. The important point is recognition of own requirements and desires and search of methods of their satisfaction out of the partner.
Love and support reception is probable not only from one person. The more sources of their reception, the fewer loads lay down on the partner. The more person is independent in satisfaction of the requirements, the less he/she depends on other person.
It is important to remember that the love and acceptance source can be not only external, but also internal. The more such sources you will find, the less you will depend on surrounding people and their acceptance or non-acceptance of you.
You should search for things that feed, support, inspire and develop you. It can be cultural wealth, interests, a hobby, own qualities and personal characteristics, and also own body, feelings, sensations.
Work with emotional dependence: learn to be the self-sufficient person!
Notice the moments when you are loved and supported, even if it is small signs on attention. Tell to yourself that during these moments you are seen, heard, accepted.
And necessarily address to a body and physical sensations, as the period of formation of propensity to dependence is infancy, the period of domination of a body and its requirements.
Through corporal contacts to mum and other close people, through a food and corporal comfort the child understands that he is loved, and the first learns to distinguish the corporal requirements.
Each person has the rhythm of affinity and alienation, activity and rest, dialogue and a solitude, donation and acceptance. Having the rhythm and periodically leaving a close contact, they do not cease to love you less and do not become bad.
Imagine what will happen, if you lose your external source of emotional well being – the partner (the friend, group of friends or adherents). Possibly, it will be sad, intolerable, bitterly, terribly, hard. But you are strong person! Try to pass through it. It is hard, but it is your experience, your life. Recollect the period, when you hadn’t this person in your life yet. You lived without him, though, perhaps, to you it was difficult. Nevertheless, the life took its own course.
What is the finest in your relations with other person? Describe it, as it is possible more in details. What do you require from him most of all? Describe this feeling or an ideal condition. Recollect it or recreate. Try to feel it all over. Where does it arise in your body? Remember this place and these sensations. Stay in this condition for some time. Then think, in what else methods you can receive it in a life.
Dependence is an attempt to live at the expense of another’s resources (or substances). The best medicine of dependence is to live your own life.
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